So often these days we talk about and read about being responsible and taking responsibility for our life. But have you ever really questioned what this means for you? Do you take 100% responsibility for your life?

Many years ago I was taught in assertiveness training that using ‘I’ statements was a good indicator that people were taking responsibility. That was assertiveness 101 and certainly a great introduction to taking responsibility for stating how one might feel or what they believe in. However personal development and self-awareness programs have moved us well beyond this level of understanding but I am still hearing many people using ‘blame’ language such as:
• ‘they won’t …..’
• ‘I can’t because…..’
• ‘if only they would …..’
• ‘wouldn’t you think that they would ……’

Some of the most common questions I have people ask me are ‘what does it mean for me to take 100% responsibility?’ and ‘how can I be totally 100% responsible for situations where other people are involved?’ These are great questions to be asking yourself because they encourage you to think differently and explore a new understanding of yourself and others.

Usually when I’m asked these questions I hear or feel a sense of anger, frustration and even resentment in peoples’ tone and language. This more often than not indicates to me that they just don’t understand what it means to be responsible and it’s causing them a level of discomfort and keeping them stuck in a ‘victim’ mindset.

Today, there is a plethora of information written about taking 100% responsibility and one that I really like is a simple formula that Dr Robert Resnick, a psychotherapist taught Jack Canfield.  It’s one that I use frequently when I’m personally feeling stuck or catch myself out using ‘blame’ language.  I’ve also received excellent feedback from clients who have used this after attending one of my coaching or training sessions. The formula is:

E+ R = O
(Event + Response = Outcome)

The basic idea of this is that every outcome you experience in life, whether it be perceived as a positive or negative (success or failure, wealth or poverty, health or illness, joy or frustration) is the result of how you have responded to an earlier event or a series of events in your life.

If you don’t like the outcome or results you are currently experiencing there a two choices you can make:
1. Blame the event (E) for your lack of results/outcome (O)

This means blaming the economy, the weather, the lack of money, lack of education, your partner, your boss and so on.  This approach finds reasons why things aren’t possible and yes it is true that you can’t change the weather or the economy of even your partner or boss.  However there are many hundreds of people who have faced similar or more challenging circumstances and succeeded in an adventure in ‘bad’ weather, created wealth in a ‘bad’ economy or transformed their relationship with their partner or boss.  What’s the difference?

2. Change your response (R) to the events (E) until you get the outcomes (O) that you want

Where you do have power is in your ability to change your thinking, change how you communicate with yourself and others, change the pictures of yourself and the external world and you can most certainly choose to change your actions and behaviour.  Unfortunately, most people are run by their negative habits and beliefs even though they are not serving them simply because they haven’t learned how to do change their response.

Where are you currently at in relation to taking 100% responsibility? If you want to learn more about how people have taken responsibility for their lives and gone on to achieve things that’s important to them then sign up to receive the WonderfulWebWomen Law of Attraction in Action Volume 3.  There are some inspiring stories in this book to get you thinking about taking 100% responsibility.

Or:

• perhaps you want to leave a comment below and share your ideas about taking responsibility
• contact me about my training and coaching programs where I discuss this formula more in detail
• read more about the E+R=O formula in Jack Canfield’s ‘Success Principles’ which you can purchase through my recommended reading section here on the right of your screen

Enjoy and I’ll see you on my next blog!

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ACTION STEPS to SUCCESS

There are many ways to attract success into your life but first you must define success for you. There are no two people the same on this planet so comparing yourself to others is futile and self-sabotaging.  The 2010 Law of Attraction in Action Vol 3 will introduce you to many different ways that these great authors have defined their success and the actions they have taken to attract success.

Every one of these articles focuses on ACTION and to make it easy for you, every article finishes with a series of actions you can take today to start attracting success in your life. Some of the skills you will learn from reading this book include:

• Looking within yourself to discover your true life purpose
• Tapping into your spirituality to think outside the square
• Evaluate how you use your time and techniques to set goals and get more done
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• Attracting health and love into your life

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Expressing Your Gratitude

As you read through the chapters of the 2010 Law of Attraction in Action Vol 3 you will find profound words of wisdom and incredibly inspiring stories.  Some of these articles will really resonate with you and touch your heart, hopefully make a lasting impact on your life in some way.  If that is the case, there will be opportunities for you to tell how the story impacts your life and how you are inspired to take action.  In doing so, you will touch the lives of many.

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Personal development is a journey of courage and commitment.  It’s a journey that never ends and it requires maturity to take 100% responsibility for all areas of your life including your thoughts, emotions, achievements and wellbeing.

Personal development or self-leadership is hard work and requires you to take a deep look at yourself, really knowing who you are on the inside and then getting your external reality to be congruent with your inner self.  When you are congruent with your inner being you will confidently challenge and overcome negative feelings such as  guilt, blame and shame because you will see them as opportunities for evolving as a human being.

The overall goal in personal development is to achieve outstanding effectiveness while maintaining internal balance where your thoughts, feelings, actions and skills are all working together to create the life you truly desire.  It’s the never-ending journey of life and requires a great deal of time, patience and consistency.

There are no quick fixes in personal development. For lasting change to occur limiting beliefs and decisions or undesirable habits and patterns must be transformed at a cellular level otherwise you will keep experiencing similar events.

There are many tools and techniques available in the personal development field and my suggestion is if you are really looking for deep transformation, try something that will extend your comfort zone, allow you to expand your awareness and fully support you in your evolution and not revolution.

The Transformation Experience is about taking charge because life is full of problems and opportunities! Some problems are minor concerns that arise during routine daily activities while others can be major hardships that can keep us distracted and lacking in energy for years.

Everyone has problems in some area of life, relationships, finances, home, health and work.  In addition to that there are always the normal demands and frustrations of daily life such as meeting deadlines, children issues, traffic hold-ups, increasing cost, and mounting bills. As soon as one problem gets resolved, a new one comes along.  That’s the truth and that is the nature of life.

By applying transformation techniques, we can quickly transform what is a negative situation into an opportunity simply by changing our perception.  This then allows us to direct our energy to what is really important in our lives and empowers us to make decisions, take action and enjoy the results instead of wallowing in a negative frame of mind.

So what are transformation techniques?

There are many powerful techniques available. From my research and experience most of them involve asking quality questions, ones that challenge the mind and enable us to see a different view of the situation.

The Transformation Experience is a one day program where you can experience these questioning techniques with a professionally trained facilitator.  The benefits include:

• bringing more heart and soul into your space
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• build confidence and personal magnetism
• enjoy greater energy and vitality
• transform worry, anxiety and guilt into healthy productive actions
• increase mental effectiveness
• improve self-worth

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